Did you know, a recent study discovered that children WANT their parents to pay attention to them? Serious attention, as in, interaction, engaging in meaningful conversation, focusing on the child with undivided attention? The issue at hand was the use of cell phones and texting.
Picture this:
Mom (or dad) is talking to the child (or children). The cell phone rings, or the text message beeps, and the parent instantly leaves the child(ren) to attend to the phone/text message. The child(ren) withdraw emotionally, disengage, or act out in some form of unruliness/foolishness/silliness.
Thankfully, we have finally heard this from the media, so it must be true:
Children want to be in relationship with mom and dad...being fully present in a conversation is important...how a parent treats a child demonstrates value and worth to that child...interrupting a conversation to answer your cell phone or read/respond to a text is just plain RUDE!
Children get it...
6 comments:
It's true but - I mean we don't like it if a friend does that to us, so why would our children like it if we do it to them?
Very interesting
Hope you have a wonderful day
Renata:)
Very true!
I love your header Mrs. Regan. :)
God bless you and your family!
Kelsey
right on!
Oh how I myself need this reminder.
AMEN! I loved the attention of my momma when I was a kid - and she was faithful to give it to me. I try to do the same and get mad at myself when I find myself saying, "Hang on" or "In a minute" - when I don't really have to.
I enjoyed my visit Kathy.
Love,
Lynnette
PS Email me. I can't remember where you live. Curious. It'd be totally fun to meet you!
This is such an urgent call. Sosobering to think how easy it is to do in this day and age. Likewise saying, "Just a minute" ten times while on the computer and a child keeps saying, "Mommy? How long til you're done? Mommy? Can you read to me?" I am resolved to severely cut my computer time or use it during sleeping time ....ugh. Thanks for the wake up call. We (I) need it.
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